Thursday, February 5, 2009

Recent debate?

Recently a paper article Q & A section, had a person write out and ask Why don't friends with kids have time? Basically asking why her best friend doesn't have time to do all things she needs to, and still have time to call or email her. Then proceeds on to say, that this said friend must be lying, cause she works, and has time to get done the things like housework, dry cleaners, groceries, and etc.

I'd like to say I can understand both sides of the debate, but I can't. Where does this person have the right to call her friend a liar, cause she feels neglected? I'm a mom of 3, not as busy as I used to be or as busy as some mom's I know are. I stay home and my average day can be pretty busy. Others not so much..... Like today... Here is a look at my day.

  • I was up half the night cause my son was crying
  • got up, and got them breakfast
  • quickly checked my emails
  • took a shower
  • ran out the door to take my husband to work
  • came home for 50 mins, long enough to start a load of laundry, and pick up
  • left to take the sick son to the doctors (sat for an hour, in which I could be doing so many things)
  • came back home prepared lunch, cleaned kitchen, switched laundry, and played referee
  • left to go pick husband up, fill prescriptions, and some odds and ends
  • back home to fold laundry, prepare supper
  • clean up from supper, give baths, and get kids in bed (usually a long process)
  • hope I have enough time to sit and relax, and then get up to do it all over again the next day!
That is actually a relatively easy day for me, most days are more stressful. I have many friends, most with children, cause they understand when you have a long day and forcing yourself to finish the day and climb into bed. Its sad that people feel we do nothing... I feel most days that we probably do more and work harder than most. Not saying that moms who work outside the home don't do anything, cause they do as well.

If you would like to read the full article you can read it over at Write from Karen. Would love to hear anyone's comments on this.


The Eagen's said...

It really just comes down to this -- people that do not have children do not fully understand all that we do. They can't because they don't have the responsibilities. They may have babysat a few times but they have never lived with a child 24/7 for 365 days. Moms just have to make the time to connect with friends and often times that means that something suffers - such as housework. There are just never enough hours in the day to get accomplished all that we need to do! I've been both -- a working mom and a stay at home Mom and I can honestly say that being a SAHM is the hardest job in the world! Very interesting topic, though!

Berry Patch said...

I heard about this. Basically I think her friend is selfish. And she doesn't have kids so she has no point of reference. I still remember before I had B & I seriously wondered how tough could it be? I thought I'd have oodles of free time. Hah! What a rude awakening! I could barely get a shower in during the day & that's when he was a newborn!!! ;-)